The Three Lies We Tell Ourselves
Halfway through this mini project, it’s time to take a harder look at how easy it is to pull the wool over our own eyes and bury our heads deep in the sand when it comes to the task of finding our bliss. Let’s look at how we hide from success and happiness because no one lies to us as well as we lie to ourselves.
Self Lie #1 I’m not up for the challenge
We tell ourselves that we’re not up for the challenge of rushing toward our dream life or job. In my last post, I put that to rest when pointing out that we often take daring and wild action in the name of love. This means that when circumstances are in place, the leap is more than easy. I’ve seen that I can move mountains or leave no stone unturned when it comes to issues surrounding my husband’s health. And I’m sure you have plenty of examples of your own. We can put this to rest.
Self Lie #2 I don’t know what I’d really like to be when I grow up.
We do know. Or, we likely have a very good idea but haven’t thought it a worthwhile pursuit. Why? Because we’ve been conditioned to separate “work” from “play”. Remember when you came home from school and immediately changed into your “play clothes”? We even had different outfits to separate the two aspects of our day. It’s no wonder we can fall into believing that we can’t find joy and playfulness in our working world.
If we take a look at our browsing history or book shelves right now, we’d likely have an excellent indicator of the ideas and lifestyles that interest us most. This would be what we do when we’re in our online play clothes. Trace an arc right now through your personal history to see how it measures up to your latest browser bookmarks. A theme should quickly become apparent. “Which jobs will immerse me in that” is the next question that should come to mind. Then go put on your sneakers.
Self Lie #3 I’m not as [savvy] [talented] as my friends, family, or colleagues
This one is particularly untrue as well as unproductive. If we try to measure ourselves by holding to a standard of someone else’s idea of a dream career, we will surely appear to fall short. But the fact is that those who excel in their careers do so because they are doing the work that’s aligned with their passions and interests. (I’ve never seen anyone report a lifetime of success gained by hating their work)
We often fail to see this very large detail and instead find ourselves struggling to keep up with the performance of others. This is also a remnant of our educational system in which we were expected to measure up, equally across all subjects. I’m not a math whiz and to hold myself to the standards of someone who is, is just self deprecating behavior. On the other hand, I love to write. There are plenty of people who just don’t, and would never consider trying to measure their success by judging themselves by how much writing they do.
The Truth About Positive Self Talk
It’s always easy to find positive self talk and yes, I’m all for it. Every once in a while, though, we need to take a look at how we’ve contributed to our current state and own sense of failure. It’s not a real failure, just a misfire. If we can re-align ourselves with the original target woven throughout our history, a personal sense of satisfaction should begin to follow.
We, you and me… are as savvy, talented, and up for the challenge… as anyone else. If we feel any less than energized by our work, we just haven’t been living fully in our truth.
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